I haven't said much about guy #2 yet. Mostly, that's because I haven't been sure what to say. At first, I almost stopped seeing him because he was so... nice... that something didn't seem right. I had trouble believing his sincerity, and thought maybe he was trying to manipulate me.
I don't have a great track record with men. Some of my past relationships were with guys who talked down to me or bossed me around, and then I moved on to a charmer who criticized me so much he gave me an ulcer before doing me the favour of cheating and giving me the incentive to move on. From there, I had a few relationships with guys that I had to walk on eggshells and be careful around, lest I appear too interested and make them feel pressured to commit. There have been a few relatively good guys mixed in there over the years, but it's fairly safe to say that my expectations are pretty low... which is why I've been single for as long as I have.
But, guy #2 stayed in touch just enough to keep him on my mind without making me feel crowded. When we are together, he's positive and optimistic. He pays attention when we talk, and remembers our conversations later. He talks about (suggests) future plans, as though he has no fear that I'll read between the lines. If a day goes by without us having a reason to talk, he sends me a quick message, just to let me know I've been on his mind. And so, even though I questioned him at the beginning, I've been responding to his emails and calls, and going out with him when I can. It's been good... it's been pretty great, actually. It's taken a while, but I've come to the conclusion that he really is a genuinely nice guy who simply wants to treat me like I'm something special.
It's early days, no doubt. We are still getting to know each other and testing the waters. I'm not sure what will happen with him, but I think it'll be fun to figure it out. Even more, I've realized that if this is what relationships are supposed to be like, I've been missing out.
ps - "guy #2" isn't a great name. He got it originally because I was getting to know Dr Sheldon Cooper (AKA Guy #1) when we first got in touch, and he's kept it because he shares a first name with my good friend's husband.
We were either going to have to go with Your _______ and My _____, or else ____#1 and ____#2.
Right now, it seems presumptuous to call him My ______, so he gets ______#2.
Beef and Cabbage Soup
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