Friday, September 28, 2012

Creepiness and Guarded Hope

The East Coast Nut Job sent me a message yesterday after I posted about his creepiness here.  He  skipped over the fact that I shut him down and all but hung up on him at the end of the conversation.  Instead, he said that he'd enjoyed our talk the night before and hoped that he could call me again tonight.  I responded to say that I don't think we have much in common, and that I wasn't feeling the attraction that I am looking for.  I told him that to avoid future frustration I would be ended things now, but wished him all the best moving forward.

Not thirty seconds after I hit send, my phone rang.  I didn't pick up, but he called me multiple, multiple times last night.  Finally, at about 9:30 (12:30 his time) I received a three page message from him, listing everything that we have in common.  He then cut and pasted some of the things I'd written to him earlier, and used those to let me know how I'd deceived him and led him to believe that I was attracted to him and that we would be a couple.  

Shortly after that, he called again and left a long and rambling voicemail.  I deleted it without really listening, but the general gist is that he thinks I'm running away because I'm scared of being hurt.

To be honest, I am a little scared, but I think it'll be OK.  He doesn't know my last name, or where I live.  He doesn't have my email address.  Although he has my phone number, it is unlisted.  My name doesn't come up on call display.  I am hoping that his voicemail last night was the last hoorah.  If it's not, and if he continues to call, I'll have a friend who is with the RCMP give him a call and tell him to stand down.

And in other news,  I will be meeting somebody else for coffee tomorrow.  He first contacted me just before I started to get a whiff of the East Coast guy's craziness; otherwise I don't know if I'd have the nerve to do this.  While I am determined to withhold any judgement until I've met him in person, I don't see any red flags.

This guy is quiet and a little shy.  He works in the aviation industry (as a tech, not a pilot).  He has recently taken up riding lessons and is loving it so much that he leased a horse.  He's also got an old dog, who he loves openly and worries about.  There's something about animal lovers that make me trust them that much more, but I'm still being careful.  A friend of mine knows where we'll be and when.  I've arranged to text her before and after we meet, and she'll check in if she doesn't hear from me in a reasonable amount of time.


  1. East Coast guy......very creepy! I hope the voicemail was the end.

  2. So glad you dodged that crazy bullet! Wow!

    Dog Lover Guy sounds nice. But still, don't leave your coffee unattended. Scary things I learned from meeting boys on the internet.

  3. And Round Two goes to Janice! Hopefully by the time I get my profile up and running this weekend, I'll have some competition for you!

    1. Does it count if round two is continued fallout from round one? I used to think the Zadge was particularly unlucky with some of her dating capers. Apparently, though, there are more weirdos out there than good ones.

  4. Repeat of my comment from previous post here.
    This guy with dog sounds good and safe so far.
    Just be careful.
    I feel like a Mother here.

  5. definitely stay safe. A lot of whackjobs out there - glad you are keeping your friend posted as to your dating whereabouts