Friday, October 14, 2011

To cut, or not to cut

So, I'm 38.  It's starting to occur to me that I'm not a spring chicken and I'm making some changes to accommodate..   I sometimes rule out clothing  that I might otherwise like because it's maybe not so age appropriate.  That hasn't been a hardship, but now I'm wondering if my hairstyle might be a little young for me too.

My hair is getting pretty long.  It's just about down to the bottom of my shoulder blades.  It's very thick and pretty wavy, so it's got a bit of a life of it's own.  I stopped wearing it down about 6" ago, when I started to feel  like Medusa whenever my hair was loose.

I read something a while ago about braids and messy buns being in style, and so I embraced them.  Lately, my hair is either in a long braid down my back or in a bun (with a few loose tendrils at the front that don't like to be contained) .  If it's a weekend or I'm doing something casual, it's a pretty messy, loose bun or a simple braid down the back.  If I'm somewhere more formal, it's a less messy, less loose bun or a french braid down the back.  Or, sometimes I twist it up the back and let 6-8 inches hang loose over the top.

I've thought of cutting it, but other than the effort that goes into washing it all, or the length of time that it takes to dry, this is the easiest hairstyle I've ever had.  It doesn't get easier than this, other than super-short hair (which doesn't suit my face).  But, I don't want to be one of those women who looks like she's still trying to pass as a high school student.

So, what do you think.  Should I cut it off, or let it grow?


  1. Do not cut! I actually think the short haircuts women get make them look older. Unless you look like Halle Berry, who is one of the only women I know who looks better with short hair.

  2. Don't listen to The Zadge.
    If you didn't want to you wouldn't be asking.

  3. If you feel attractive with long hair, KEEP IT.
    If clothing makes you feel comfortable and confident, WEAR IT.
    WHO decides what is age appropriate, anyway..some 19 yr old twit from the Style network?!
    At 35, I am damned old enough to decide my own limits of "age appropriate".

  4. Wear what suits you. You know what makes you feel best. Unless you have feathers weaved in your hair or strands of purple, it doesn't sound like you're trying to look like a high schooler.

    I have had short hair almost all my life. I let it grow in my 20s for a time and then cut it after my divorce. Best thing ever! But now, 20 someyears later, the shor haircut isn't as cute anymore. So I'm starting to let it grow a little bit. I'll probably never be able to grow it long enough for a bun, because I don't know how to make one. :)

  5. Let it grow there's nothing better than long healthy hair no matter how old you are.

  6. Well I like short hair and I have it. Kind of a Pixie cut-Bah. I think that you should wear your hair in whatever style that when you stand in front of the mirror you say "damn I look good". I am not big on doing what other people think is age appropriate. Seriously I thought at one time jeans at 60 would not be appropriate. Wrong. But Janice I probably would not take seriously the comment of a 60 year old woman who has a stuffie bunny.

  7. And take my advice with a grain of salt: remember I chopped all my hair off two and a half years ago and have been trying to grow it out for over a year!

  8. Let it grow!!!!! sounds like you have nice thick hair - let it loose and embrace it. I'm several years your senior and have been growing mine out for years now...

  9. Thanks, ladies. That's what I was hoping you'd say. (Except Susan, who has a point, but I always contemplate chopping my hair in the fall... not sure why.)

    The more I think about it, I've decided that buns say mature. I'm going to go with that.

    And Dawn, I've been taunting my friend (who is also my hairstylist) about dying some of it purple for years. She thinks it's crazy, but finally said Let's do it in the summer,. I told her I'm too old.